Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

How to Heal From Distant, Rejecting, or Self-involved Parents

Book - 2015
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Are you one of the countless people who grew up with emotionally immature parents? If you suffer from this troubling parent/child dynamic, you may still recall painful moments from your childhood when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of maturity in an effort to "compensate" for your parents' behavior. And while you likely cultivated strengths such as self-reliance and independence along the way-- strengths that have served you well as an adult--having to be the emotionally mature person in your relationship with your parent is confusing and even damaging.

If you are ready to gain the insight you need to move on from feelings of loneliness and abandonment and find healthy ways to meet your own emotional needs, this book will help light the way. You'll discover the four main types of emotionally immature parents:

·Emotional parents, who may vacillate between over-involvement and abandonment, leading to frightening instability and unpredictability
·Driven parents, who are often compulsively busy and can't stop trying to perfect everything, including other people
·Passive parents, who may have a laissez-faire mindset and avoid dealing with anything upsetting
·Rejecting parents, who may withdraw from any relationship with their child, showing either detachment or anger as primary responses

All emotionally immature parents have one defining characteristic in common, even if they differ in style--none of them puts their child's needs first. This book will show you that you are not to blame for your parent's behavior. It also offers real skills for handling difficult family situations and moving on from the emotional wounds of your childhood. If you are ready to gain a greater understanding of both your parents and yourself, this book provides a much-needed guide.

Publisher: Oakland, California : New Harbinger Publications, Inc., ©2015.
ISBN: 9781626251700
Characteristics: vi, 201 pages ;,23 cm


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Mar 19, 2018

The author brings clarity that unmet needs and denial of emotions leads us down the wrong path: one of pathologizing ourselves ... and this is not helpful. What IS helpful is s-l-o-w-i-n-g down our emotional reactivity to find out how we really think and feel about something/someone and giving ourselves validation and self-acceptance - don't wait for your parents (or anyone else) to give it to you. Your needs are important and your parents are not the only source to get those needs met. Let them off the hook and you let yourself off the hook from playing out this fantasy.

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