This book is utter, utter, junk. It is badly written, and based on a garbage idea that is extremely demeaning to women and to anyone not deeply embedded in acceptance of the white, Protestant culture from which the author comes. No psychologist of any repute works with this nonsensical non-science. As one reviewer correctly said, "codependency" is called being human. Being in any sort of relationship with someone with an addiction is *not* proof that you are "as sick as an addict". It is not a personal failing. It's just life, and people figure out how to handle it with integrity - without being judged and degraded by Melodie Beattie and her vicious adherents.
Actual, reputable research, done by those not stuck in their own narcissism and sense of utter rightness, disagrees with almost every single thing Melodie Beattie says. The book's stupidity is apparent everywhere: For example, she says that some percentage of those in support groups are overweight - to Melodie Beattie this is hard proof that they are sick! But...the percentage she gives is lower than the percentage of Americans on average who were overweight at the time the book was published. It never occurred to her to check those numbers? It never occurred to her that an awful lot of Americans are overweight, and not every single one of them is sick! Sick!??? How very, very *stupid*.
The real problem with this awful book, though, isn't it's sheer wrongness, but it's self-righteous battery of partners and other persons who know an addict. (Isn't that everyone?). This is an ugly, mean book whose ideas date from the bad old days of confrontation and tearing down the addicted - after which someone got the idea to do that to partners of the addicted too!
This book is great. I found it extremely relatable. Got me thinking that the entire world is codependent. It's called being human.
Who's codependent.....not me. A real eye-opener. Melody Beattie explains the inexplicable. You have to be ready to hear what she has to say, ready to look at and see things differently ~ but if you are, it's a great book. You can't help but be changed after reading it. Who's codependent? Everyone, to some degree.
It looks okay. May be good for later reference.
Hoe do you access the e-book...is there registration to the EBSCO site via the library? I don't see a place to register
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